Will We Celebrate Your Day?


As the 2016 Martin Luther King, Jr. week comes to a close, I am sharing this post from by friend Darrell “Coach D” Andres, CSP. This post appeared earlier this week on Christian Professionals Network and poses the question, will we celebrate your day?:

Dr. Myles Munroe’s Challenge

No question that Jesus my Lord and Savior has had the greatest impact on my life as a father, husband, minister and business owner. Besides my mother, the one person he placed on the planet that has impacted my life personally more than anyone is my mentor/Pastor – Dr. Myles Munroe out of Nassau in the Bahamas. He taught me more about living on purpose than anyone else. We lost Dr. Munroe a year or so ago, but his words still impact my life.

The Question Left Them In Stunned Silence

He once shared a story describing how during one of his many Martin Luther King Day speeches, he posed a question to his audience relating to Dr. King that left them in a stunned silence. He said and I quote, unquote, “Dr. Martin Luther King was a one of a kind person. His life and legacy was one of the greatest the world has ever seen. We are here to celebrate his life, legacy and impact today. The question I have for you however is as follows, “At some point in history are we going to celebrate your day? Will your life count in such a manner that the world, your city, state, nation or community is better off because you were here or will history not remember you? When I heard this, I made the commitment that my life would not end without making a considerable deposit in the world I live in. History will remember me. For me, it is using my voice and gift of motivation (Or biblically-exhortation) to change the world around me. My family, city, state nation and yes world (One day!)

Nothing matters except faith which worketh by love.[1. Brandon Blankenship paraphrase of Galatians 5:6, Image Credit: Fireworks Jorgen Kesseler CC flickr 31DEC2010]

The Bible tells us clearly in John 14:12:

Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do; because I go unto my Father.[2. KJV.]

We (Men and Women) are told through scripture that we will do great works. We are not all called to be a global revolutionary like Dr. King, but the question I am posing is, “How will your life be remembered?” Through your business, work, ministry or other calling, what contributions are you going to make to transform society? I speak to youth, families and parents often (purposely) because one of my three missions is to transform the next generation via passion and purpose.

We Have Confused Wealth With Purpose

One belief that youth have is that you are only significant if you are wealthy. I do not blame them for thinking this way. We have confused wealth with purpose. Society, which includes many people of faith have wired them to think like this. My response to them when they make this statement is simple: “History does not remember rich people, it only remembers people who have positively impacted the world around them. The world and our nation does not create holidays for Millionaires and Billionaires, it creates them for people who improved the outcomes of others via the lives they live. If you just so happen to become wealthy in doing so that it another thing, but wealth as your only goal is empty.” I tell them, use your life in such a way that your life counts. Just like King, live your life on purpose and whatever gift you bring to the table will have meaning and significance to the world in which you live.

Will We Celebrate Your Day?

My dear friends, I say the same to you. Whatever affinity (Passion, Gift or Ability) God has given you, use it in such a way that betters the world around you. Luke 6:38 states: “Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.” Dr. King’s Dream blessed the world in such a way that streets, schools and communities are named after him. Because of his dream, the world is a better place, and the world is responding (Giving back) by honoring his life and legacy.

My friends, Dr. King left us a legacy, and now it is your time. What will you do to make the world a better place?

Darrell “Coach D” Andres, CSP

PS-My brothers and sister who live in nations where this is a real challenge, we are praying for you![3. Special thanks to Coach D who allowed the reprint here.]


How long should an engagement be?

Engagement Ring (c)2014 Brandon L. Blankenship Birmngham Hoover Pelham Attorney Lawyer Writer

The Bible does not provide for a specific length of time for an engagement to marry. We can, however, draw some inferences from scripture and historical cultural references.

Families were very involved with bringing the couple together. Traditionally, the intended bride would ultimately have to agree. Today, the engagement period is a good time to introduce the families to each other. Blending two families can be a real blessing that everyone benefits from. Of course, there are some families that cannot be blended. To the degree it is possible to blend them, create opportunities such as dinners, planned activities and games to give blending a chance.

The engagement time is an excellent time to evaluate your own heart toward others. Remember that one of the characteristics of Isaac’s intended wife was her willingness to serve beyond what was ask of her. Marriages where both husband and wife have this heart of service are wildly successful. Make a list of what you are actually doing to evidence a service heart. If your list is short or empty, take the engagement time to exercise your servant heart. Re-evaluate in a couple months. Make sure your list is longer.

“No man had relations with” Isaac’s intended wife, speaking of her sexual purity. She was a virgin. Commit to sexual purity during the engagement period. If you have already been sexually active, forgive and repent and make a new commitment to sexual purity during the engagement period. Be mindful of creeping expectations.

For couples that had not been married before a traditionally engagement would last one year. During this time, the intended husband would prepare the home for his intended wife. This was also a time that the intended husband would give his intended bride gifts. She would also receive gifts from her intended husband’s friends.

Taking one year for an engagement seems to be further supported when you consider that under the law, new husbands were excused from military service and business for one year after the actual marriage. In the alternative, the husband was charged with making his wife happy during this time.

Now this is not to say that marriages with shorter engagement periods are doomed. To the contrary, there are many notable marriages that had short engagement periods. Also, Paul warns that it is better to have a short engagement if you cannot remain committed to sexual purity. Even so, it is hard to argue that any new venture, even marriage, does not benefit from a year of self-examination, planning, preparing and making provisions.

brandon blankenship (c) 2014

Gen. 24. Also see Judges 14:2 -7 for interplay between intended husband and his parents.

Gen. 24: 16 Scripture taken from the New American Standard Bible®, Copyright © 1960, 1962, 1963, 1968, 1971, 1972, 1973, 1975, 1977, 1995 by The Lockman Foundation. Used by permission.

Ketv. 2; Shulh.an ‘Aruk, Eben ha-‘Ezer, 56.

Deuteronomy 24:5