Become One

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Under normal conditions, when a baby is born most everyone recognizes that they are going to have to share.  Before the baby there were 24 hours in the day and none of them were dedicated to the baby.  After the baby is born, most everyone recognizes that there are not any more hours in the day and some of them will be taken up by the new baby. Space will have to be shared.  A new item or two will certainly appear in the budget.  No surprises. Some people miss, however,…

A Little Thing That Means So Much

From Time immemorial, flowers have been considered the language of love. They don’t cost much, especially in season, and often they’re for sale on the street corners. Yet, considering the rarity with which the average husband takes home a bunch of daffodils, you might suppose them to be as expensive as orchids and as hard to come by as the edelweiss which flowers on the cloud-swept cliffs of the Alps. Why wait until your wife goes to the hospital to give her a few flowers? Why not bring her a…

A Tricky Thing: Marriage

Marriage may be the closest thing to Heaven or Hell  any of us will know on this earth. –Edwin Louis Cole Marriage is a tricky thing.  A mystery.  A real-life roller coaster.  God created man without a wife, and saw that it was not good.  He then gave man the perfect companion, but she upset the apple cart and got them kicked out of paradise.  Tricky.  God knew Adam needed a companion, yet he waited before delivering.  God knew that Eve would choose unwisely and that ultimate redemption would come from…

Death Without Hope?

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It hit me today that I have four friends that have all lost their husbands at an early age.  One died just yesterday and the heartbreak is fresh and raw.  They were all in their 20’s or 30’s when they passed. All by different causes.  Such anguish.  So sad. And so tough these women are!  What would I do or feel were the roles reversed?  I can’t even imagine.  When I become ‘one’ with my husband, how can I go on without him?  How could I pick myself up from…

A Blessed Connection

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“Little Bit,” our youngest, went home after school with friends and is spending the night.  At first she was clingy and conflicted about going.  She would miss us too much.  I didn’t tell her that I would probably miss her more.  I just assured her that I was only a phone call away and she would be having too much fun to even stop and call. She went anyway and the other mom sent me a text confirming that she is, of course, giggling constantly and having a ball.  She…

Want to be Happy? Do This:

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Walter Damrosch married the daughter of James G. Blaine, one of America’s greatest orators and one-time candidate for President.  Ever since they met many years ago at Andrew Carnegie’s home in Scotland, the Damroschs have led a conspicuously happy life. The secret? “Next to care in choosing a partner,” says Mrs Damrosch, “‘I should place courtesy after marriage. If young wives would only be as courteous to their husbands as to strangers! Any man will run from a shrewish tongue.”  Rudeness is the cancer that devours love. Everyone knows this,…

Read Marriage for Dummies

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Dr Katherine Bement Davis, general secretary of the Bureau of Social Hygiene, once induced a thousand married women to reply very frankly to a set of intimate questions. The result was shocking-an incredibly shocking comment upon the sexual unhappiness of the average American adult. After perusing the answers she received from these thousand married women, Dr Davis published without hesitation her conviction that one of the chief causes of divorce in this country is physical mismating. Dr G. V. Hamilton’s survey verifies this finding. Dr Hamilton spent four years studying…

One Quick Step to Happy Relationship

“‘Most Men when seeking wives,’ says Paul Popenoe, Director of the Institute of Family Relations in Los Angeles, ‘are not looking for executives but for someone with allure and willingness to flatter their vanity and make them feel superior. Hence the woman office manager may be invited to luncheon, once. But she quite possibly dishes out warmed-over remnants of her college courses on ‘main currents in contemporary philosophy,’ and may even insist on paying her own bill. Result: she thereafter lunches alone. ‘In contrast, the noncollegiate typist, when invited to…

Do This for an Unhappy Ending

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“William and Catherine Gladstone lived together for fifty-nine years, almost three score years glorified with an abiding devotion. …. Gladstone, a formidable enemy in public, never criticized at home. When he came down to breakfast in the morning, only to discover that the rest of his family was still sleeping, he had a gentle way of registering his reproach. He raised his voice and filled the house with a mysterious chant that reminded the other members that England’s busiest man was waiting downstairs for his breakfast, all alone. Diplomatic, considerate,…

Destroy Love In One Easy Step

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Imagine having all the ingredients for a great marriage:  health, wealth, power, fame, beauty, love and adoration.  If you had all that, what could destroy your marriage? “Seventy-Five years ago, Napoleon III of France, nephew of Napoleon Bonaparte, fell in love with Marie Eugenic Ignace Augustine de Montijo, Countess of Teba, the most beautiful woman in the world- and married her. His advisers pointed out that she was only the daughter of an insignificant Spanish count. But Napoleon retorted: “What of it?” Her grace, her youth, her charm, her beauty…