The Solution For Divorce May Be The Three Year Marriage

The Solution For Divorce May Be The Three Year Marriage

C.S. Lewis did not marry until after he was 50. Even then, his marriage was not consummated for over a year. As he writes about his marriage, he reveals that it was everything you might hope for. Lewis considered his wife an intellectual equal, enjoyed debating her, got her humor and her his. His love for her was every bit as giddy as the first love of youth. He loved her passionately and was content sitting with her in silence. Three Year of Marriage Soon after they were married, Lewis’s…

Only One Power Has Authority Over Marriage

Only One Power Has Authority Over Marriage

Only one power is given authority over marriage; Not loneliness, Not depression, Not addiction, Not anxiety, Not self-injury, Not money, Not sex.1 Only death has authority over marriage.2 The cause of the ending of every marriage that is not overcome by death, is surrender. Don’t surrender. ### Brandon Blankenship, Alabama Image Credit: Fat Chance Michael Smith flickr CC 6OCT2011 ↩  Matthew 5:32, 1 Corinthians 7:39-40, Romans 7:2-3. ↩

Truth or Dare and Money

Truth or Dare and Money

If you don’t want anyone to find out, don’t do it. -Chinese Proverb Ever hid money from your spouse?1 Ever bought something and just kept it to yourself? Got a credit card only you know about? Turns out you are not alone. According to Credit Karma, 17% of millennials confessed to hiding purchases from their spouse, while 11 % said they had a hidden bank account or credit card.2 Here are some thoughts to consider. Nothing is really hidden, at least not forever. No matter how smart you are or…

Say Her Name

Say Her Name

An older gentleman just walked up to me and asked, “when is the last time you called your wife by her name?” I couldn’t remember but I’m sure it had been a while. I call her lots of things – but not her name. The gentleman said, “when you get home, before you go to bed, call your wife by her name. Your wife is not just some faceless person you share a house with. She has a name.” Strange encounter. I thought it was stupid but I tried it anyway….

Right Here. Right Now.

Right Here. Right Now.

Here is the number one gift I can give Donnalee. Be with her. Easy to say, hard to do. Not hard because she is hard to be with. Quite the contrary, there is no better day than one spent with her. I am the problem. I have a hard time just being with her because there are so many other places to be. It is nearly impossible to be here now when you think there is somewhere else to be.    -Guru Singh The times that this phenomenon has become…

A Word To Newlyweds (or Those Who Are About To Be)

A Word To Newlyweds (or Those Who Are About To Be)

Maybe so many marriages suck today because they started wrong. I can’t think of a single married couple that I have been close to that didn’t start the same way. Newlyweds. Get as much house as we can get. Get a car, no, two cars. Both husband and wife (or at least one of them) working as many hours as they can get. Grab a movie here, dinner there. If this isn’t you, please comment below and share your experience. Consider this alternative: For the first year of your marriage,…

At least infinity stands off

At least infinity stands off

At least infinity stands off, makes room in the back of the closet for another pair of shoes, an old umbrella, our clutch of tight memories.  Years to list become, like a baked cake, no longer separate, but melt, mesh, cohere into the sweet taste of shared lips.  -Jon Ciliberto Thanks to Georgia poet Jon Ciliberto for this poem celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary.  During the AJC Decatur Book Festival, several poets set up a booth and demonstrate their talent.  Since it was the weekend of our anniversary, we shared a…

The Secret of the Empty Hand

The Secret of the Empty Hand

If there is one skill that results in more quality in marriage and longevity it is the skill of emptying the hand. I don’t remember the first time our new shiny new marriage got a scratch on it. Nor do I remember what the scratch was about. I do remember feeling a grudge and withdrawing into my own space. I also remember holding onto that grudge like it was worth a million bucks. What a blessing that after a few hours, my desire for reconciliation had grown in value to…

So Much To Learn Together!

So Much To Learn Together!

So much to learn together!  So much to share!  Languages and acting, poetry and drama and computer-programming and physics and metaphysics, and parapsychology and electronics and gardening and bankruptcy and mythology and geography and cooking and history and painting and economics and wood-working and music and music-history, flying, sailing and the history of sail, political action and geology, courage and comfort and wild plants and native animals, dying and death, archaeology and paleontology and astronomy and cosmology, anger and remorse, writing and metallurgy and sharpshooting and photography and solar design, house…