Category: Marriage

If you don’t want anyone to find out, don’t do it. -Chinese Proverb Ever hid money from your spouse?1 Ever bought something and just kept it to yourself? Got a credit card only you know about? Turns out you are not alone. According to Credit Karma, 17% of millennials confessed to hiding purchases from their spouse, while 11 % said they had a hidden bank account or credit card.2 Here are some thoughts to consider. Nothing is really hidden, at least not forever. No matter how smart you are or…

An older gentleman just walked up to me and asked, “when is the last time you called your wife by her name?” I couldn’t remember but I’m sure it had been a while. I call her lots of things – but not her name. The gentleman said, “when you get home, before you go to bed, call your wife by her name. Your wife is not just some faceless person you share a house with. She has a name.” Strange encounter. I thought it was stupid but I tried it anyway.…

Here is the number one gift I can give Donnalee. Be with her. Easy to say, hard to do. Not hard because she is hard to be with. Quite the contrary, there is no better day than one spent with her. I am the problem. I have a hard time just being with her because there are so many other places to be. It is nearly impossible to be here now when you think there is somewhere else to be.    -Guru Singh The times that this phenomenon has become…

At least infinity stands off, makes room in the back of the closet for another pair of shoes, an old umbrella, our clutch of tight memories.  Years to list become, like a baked cake, no longer separate, but melt, mesh, cohere into the sweet taste of shared lips.  -Jon Ciliberto Thanks to Georgia poet Jon Ciliberto for this poem celebrating our 25th wedding anniversary.  During the AJC Decatur Book Festival, several poets set up a booth and demonstrate their talent.  Since it was the weekend of our anniversary, we shared a…

If there is one skill that results in more quality in marriage and longevity it is the skill of emptying the hand. I don’t remember the first time our new shiny new marriage got a scratch on it. Nor do I remember what the scratch was about. I do remember feeling a grudge and withdrawing into my own space. I also remember holding onto that grudge like it was worth a million bucks. What a blessing that after a few hours, my desire for reconciliation had grown in value to…

A journey is like a marriage.  The certain way to be wrong is to think you are in control of it. – John Steinbeck

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