Discomfort – Finding Abundance in The Abundant Life

Discomfort Finding Abundance

Want a car? Sure. But which one? Isn’t finding abudance in the abudnant life really just about lifestyle?

Got a car but you got a new raise? Well, you need a better car. Got a better car? Then you need a better place to live. At a certain level of earning, you need a second car, a second house (beach, mountain or lake). No matter how much your check is, you always seem to end up with the same amount at the end of each year – little to nothing. No matter how much you make, you end up living a lifestyle of scarcity.

Yet you believe that there is such a thing as an abundant life. But no matter how hard you work, abundance evades you. It plays an unfair game of hide-and-seek, unfair because it cannot be found no matter how hard you seek. It seems like a better car would be an abundant life. It seems like more clothes would be an abudnant life. It seems like a better house would be an abudnant life. Finding abundance, however, is not about more.

The opposite of scarcity, however, is not abundance – it is enough.

If you can find a away to shift your lifestyle so that rather than sliding up the scale to the next better thing, you slide down the scale until you have just enough (until perhaps you are just a little uncomfortable).

Then you will be left with an abundance.

And when you have the opportunity to help others with your abudance – then you find the abundant life.

### Brandon Blankenship

 

 

Things I Learned Alone On The Farm

Brandon-Blankenship Things I Learned Alone On the Farm

There is always something to do on a farm. Even when you fix everything that is broken, there is preventative maintenance to do: greasing equipment, treating wood handles, sharpening…. If you get all of the preventative maintenance done, there is always something that could be improved. Better soil, better fences, better drainage, better water, all of this makes a better farm.

Often, my mind joins my hands and is consumed in the work. Other times, the work itself (like driving a tractor) lends itself to watching things, to learning. Here are some of the things I learned alone on the farm:

  1. Honeybees are a living example of the Christian lifestyle. They work and work to have a surplus of the food stores they need to survive. Even when they give away 2/3 of what they make, they have plenty left for themselves.
  2. Thousands of honeybees work in perfect harmony with each other toward a common goal. Best as I can tell, excluding queen selection, they never argue in spite of making countless daily decisions that will determine their survival.
  3. Border collies work when they are hurt.
  4. On the farm, it is obvious that death in its full meaning is at work every day. Wood rots, metal rusts, moths destroy and the cute field mouse eats next season’s seeds.
  5. Life will force its way through rock.
  6. Left alone, the plants that I don’t (or can’t) eat will overtake the plants that I can eat.
  7. The honeybee makes honey for the survival of the honeybee colony. The beekeeper only manages surplus.
  8. A good file is more valuable than a new axe.
  9. A bucket of bolts and screws saves a bunch of trips to the hardware store.
  10. I can track the season by what is blooming.
  11. Good soil is better than the best fertilizer.
  12. This year’s potato harvest has to last until next year’s potato harvest.
  13. Acquaintances are indirectly proportionate to the work that needs to be done.
  14. Friends are directly proportionate to the work that needs to be done.

### Brandon Blankenship, On the farm.

The Solution For Divorce May Be The Three Year Marriage

Things I Learned Alone On The Farm

C.S. Lewis did not marry until after he was 50. Even then, his marriage was not consummated for over a year. As he writes about his marriage, he reveals that it was everything you might hope for. Lewis considered his wife an intellectual equal, enjoyed debating her, got her humor and her his. His love for her was every bit as giddy as the first love of youth. He loved her passionately and was content sitting with her in silence.

Three Year of Marriage

Soon after they were married, Lewis’s wife was diagnosed with cancer. They were blessed with three years of marriage which Lewis somehow seemed to slow time so that he could pack in a lifetime. Then she died.

Can I Expect More?

I have had many more years of marriage (28 this year) and learning about Lewis created in me conflicting thoughts. On the one hand, I think I’ve had so many more years than he did I really can’t expect anything more than what I have already had.

The Next Three Years

On the other hand, I think that, as much as I have been blessed in my marriage, maybe over the next three years I could slow time and discover the best years of our marriage.

### Brandon Blankenship

Blankenship Farms Pottery

About the Artist, Donnalee Blankenship

Donnalee working on Blankenship Farms Pottery
Hand building an Alabama platter.

I grew up with creative parents, and admired my art teacher aunt, but had very few artistic opportunities in school. In fact, my small town high school had no art classes at all. I always loved photography, painting, drama, ventriloquism, and creativity in all forms.

In 2010, I signed up for a pottery wheel class at the Shelby County Arts Council in Columbiana, Alabama, and I was hooked. I took class after class as long as my schedule allowed. A few years later, I started taking classes at Tena Payne’s studio, Cahaba Clayworks in Leeds, Alabama. Most recently I’ve taken classes with Nelson Grice at Grice Art Studio.

Glazing Blankenship Farms Pottery
Painting on the glaze.

I continue looking for new classes and opportunities to learn new techniques and discover what clay can do.

My desire is to make beautiful and useful art. My dream is to study with potters all over the U.S. and abroad, and learn what works for them. My philosophy is to find adventure and joy in all that I do and share that with others.

About Blankenship Farms Pottery

Blankenship Farms Pottery Alabama Cheese Platters
Alabama Cheese Platters

Stoneware pottery is perfect for kitchen use. Bisque fired at cone 04 and glaze fired at cone 6, stoneware is durable and can be used in the oven or refrigerator. Lead-free glazes make it food safe. Most of my pottery is hand built or slab built. Occasionally, I work on my wheel skills and throw bowls, plates, and more.

Our pottery with melted glass should not be used with food. Pottery with metallic edging should not be microwaved. All pottery dishes are dishwasher safe, however, that will wear and tear on the pieces more than hand washing.

Blankenship Farms Pottery Oil Bottles or Soap Bottles
Alabama Oil or Soap Bottles

The majority of my clay and glazes come from Stone Mountain Clay and Glazes in Tucker, Georgia. I hope to one day process local Alabama clay and incorporate that into my pieces. It’s all a learning process.

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Image credits: All the good looking, professional photos on this page were taken by the fabulous Heather Ponder of PonderHill Photography in Pelham, Alabama.  She is amazing. My photos are pretty obvious. :-/

Blankenship Farms Honey

Three Bottles Blankenship Farms Honey

Blankenship Farms Honey is made by honeybees in Shelby County, Alabama under the management of apiarist Brandon Blankenship.

Blankenship Farms Honey starts flowing early here. We start each day with a tablespoon of pure raw honey that has been dissolved in a glass of water with a squirt of lemon juice. We are convinced that it is the best way to satisfy an early morning thirst.

Blankenship  Farms honey is pure and raw – it is not filtered or heated above 105 degrees.

Our honey bee hives are free of pesticides, fungicides and plastic. Herbicides are not used in the apiary. When extracted from the honeycomb, our honey is screened (not filtered) and it is not blended with sugar syrup or high fructose corn syrup.

Blankenship Farms Honey and Exercise

Blankenship Farms Honey is a natural source of carbohydrates. Before exercising, consider eating pure honey for a carb load to burn off during a workout or sports. Stay hydrated and energized by adding honey to your bottled water.

For a protein enriched high carb snack, mix honey with peanut butter or light cream cheese for a fruit dip or sandwich.

Blankenship Farms Honey for Breakfast

If we have any kind of bread for breakfast it is topped with Blankenship Farms Honey. Buttered biscuits are a favorite. Each December, we have a limited release lemon-honey jelly. Winter goodness peaks with lemon-honey jelly smeared over a butter saturated biscuit.

However, we don’t have bread every morning. Many mornings we have fruit with a honey-syrup or honey-glaze. Our latest favorite is honey vanilla yogurt.

Blankenship Farms Honey for Lunch

On a hurried day, a peanut butter and honey sandwich is the way to go.

Most days, though, we end up with a salad of some kind. Greens of some type are available from our garden most nat honey month bfmonths of the year. We switch up what we mix with honey for a salad dressing: honey-balsamic vinaigrette, apple cider vinegar honey vinaigrette – the combinations never end.

Most days, though, we end up with a salad of some kind. Greens of some type are available from our garden most months of the year. We switch up what we mix with honey for a salad dressing: honey-balsamic vinaigrette, apple cider vinegar honey vinaigrette – the combinations never end.

When pears are in season we drizzle them with cinnamon-honey as a side dish.

Blankenship Farms Honey for Supper

Heat changes the nature and character of honey. We are often on a quest to find recipes for supper that include honey without having to cook the honey itself.

Often what we do is modify a recipe to add the honey after the cooking process is over. Consider these options:

  • Sweet and Salty Chicken
  • Honey Bourbon-Roasted Carrots
  • Honey-Soy Lacquered Ribs
  • Grilled and Salted Chicken (with Honey Drizzle)
  • Dinner Rolls (with Honey Butter)

Blankenship Farms Honey for Desert

Imagine an apple cake with ice cream and honey sauce.

Honey-candied pecans are a staple that can be eaten by themselves, used as an ice cream topping or worked into almost any desert.

Blankenship Farms Honey In the Kitchen

Use As Sugar Substitute: Honey is a little sweeter than sugar so you can substitute easily. For the first cup of sugar to a one-to-one substitution. Over one cup, use about 2/3-3/4 cup of honey for every cup of sugar.

Use as An Emulsifier: Honey acts as a binder and thickener for sauces, dressings, marinades and dips.

Use as A Humectant: Honey provides and retains moisture in a variety of dishes and can even extend the shelf life of baked goods.

Blankenship Farms Honey and Looking Better

Add a squeeze of honey to your moisturizer, shampoo or soap at home. Honey’s natural moisturizing properties can certainly make you look better. NOTE: We don’t guarantee that you will look good. If you were born ugly or somehow got ugly over the years, all you can hope for is to look better – a squeeze of Blankenship Farms Honey may just help with that.

Blankenship Farms Honey Helps You Sleep

If your sleep is interrupted by constant coughing (yours or someone else’s) here is a honey based cough syrup that may help you sleep.

Getting Some Blankenship Farms Honey

You can find Blankenship Farms Honey at Gifted in Pelham or at a retailer near you.

Ask Retailer Blankenship Farms Honey

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Image Credit: Thans to Lindsey Bieda for the use of her image Bubbles in Honey which is used under a Creative Commons License through flickr 17OCT2006

Spring Break Adventure 2016

I love adventure blogging. First, it requires an adventure. Check. Second, there are sure to be some family “discussions” (loosely translated “tense voices”) on how we are doing what we are doing. Check. Check. Yep, I am adventure blogging now.

It really started as a quick trip to Nashville during spring break. From there we would drive to Atlanta for ice dance testing. Then home.

True to Blankenship form, we had no sleep accommodations when we left the house. No road map planned out. No ideas on where to eat. Just get from point A to point B and figure it out along the way. If you don’t travel like that, there is an adventure right there. It doesn’t bother Brandon or Anna, but it ties my stomach in knots. I’m learning to embrace the adventure of it.

The trip to Nashville was uneventful. We have made it there many times. We bid on a hotel through Priceline.com and got half off at a Marriott. Not bad. However, I did start to think that Netflix binge watching “Person of Interest” made me hyper aware of all the exits, weird behaviors of the hotel guests, and make-shift weapons in case we got attacked.

We headed over to Franklin, one of our favorite towns, and did some restaurant hopping. Appetizers and coffee at the Frothy Monkey (most excellent cheese and fruit tray!) and supper at Puckett’s Boathouse with a live band. In between, we walked the downtown area checking out all the shops and historical markers. Altogether very pleasant.

The trip from Nashville to Chattanooga to Atlanta was a whole different story.

A few miles outside of Murphreesboro, I-24 shut down. I mean, in the middle of nowhere, everybody came to a complete stop and sat there for about two hours. The police blocked people from crossing the median to go back. Several truckers blocked the shoulder so that impatient people could not speed past the traffic to get off at the next exit, 2 miles down the road. (Seriously, thank you! That is so irritating and dangerous.) Lots of people were standing outside their cars, wandering around, and chatting.

Brandon and Anna were asleep, so I of course woke B up to help me find an alternate route….and because duh. Misery loves company. I searched the AM and FM channels for traffic news, to no avail. Then the public potty breaks started. Grown men running into the woods to relieve themselves. Worried women pacing. College kids making a party of the whole situation.

People watching is seriously interesting. I mean, think of all those apocalypse movies where you are minding your own business and suddenly you are stranded with the people around you trying to survive. Somebody has an arsenal in their trunk. Somebody has survivalist training. The locals know where all the food supplies are. Some puffed-up windbag tries to be the leader, but he messes it all up and the real leader steps forward to save us and keep us alive. There are some casualties, of course. Some people taking crazy risks. We mourn them, but have to keep moving…

The cars inch forward a few feet.

What if road block is another one of those trucks carrying millions of bees that turned over? Too bad we don’t have our bee suits in the car.

At one point we were stopped over a lake on a really tall bridge. As the semi trucks whizzed by on the oncoming lanes, the whole bridge would vibrate and freak me out. Again, I blame too many James Bond, Die Hard, Mission Impossible movies. I could totally see this as a rogue terrorist group hijacking the interstate and blowing the bridge to cover their escape, plunging thousands of innocent people to a murky death in the freezing waters. I planned, that as we sank into the river, we would quickly unbuckle, make our way to the last remaining air pocket in the car, and take our last deep breath before kicking the door open and swimming through the debris to the surface. Brandon would of course be injured and unconscious, so I would get Anna to help me carry him to the surface, but if she couldn’t, I instructed her to leave us and save herself. In an act of bravery and heroism, she would make it to the top and come back down to save us both.

The traffic started moving again.

We finally got off the interstate after two hours of going only 2 miles. We stopped right there at the over crowded fireworks gas station (who thought that was a good combo?) and kissed the ground before stretching. We had made it out of the traffic and off that bridge!

We made the Blankenship family decision of going the opposite way of all the diverted traffic, and feeling our way towards Atlanta. Our personal detour took us through multiple small towns.

By the way, in a lot of small towns, the gas station quick stops don’t have public restrooms. File that away for future use.

Our Siri GPS calculated and recalculated a lot of back roads, and I imagine if she were a real person, she would have been yelling at us. There were a few times I was tempted to yell at “her.” As it was, we went south before Chattanooga back into Alabama going west. Then found another road that took us southeast through Mentone and then back into Georgia. Lots of curvy mountain roads going up and down and winding through three states. We have now been to South Pittsburg and travelled on Turkey Mountain Road. Yay us!

Our arrival time in Atlanta jumped from 5pm to 9pm. Of course, we had to jump forward an hour for Eastern time and then there is an extra hour to Spring Forward for Daylight Savings Time, so I really have no idea what time it is. And since Anna is testing in the morning for ice dancing, we have to BE THERE at 5:30 a.m., so I’m not even sure how much sleep we are getting. This is too much math for Spring Break!

Lesson to learn here? Use a real map people! Siri and google maps could be hijacked and they will lead us all into some kind of concentration camp where we will all be interrogated for our top secret Intel.

OR…

When traveling, put yourself in the adventure mindset so you won’t go crazy. I do love that about my family. We are up for just about any kind of a spontaneous adventure. This was one brought to you by the I-24 shutdown outside of Murphreesboro, TN.

P.S. I should probably cut back on the movies. Some adventures are all in my mind. ?

Only One Power Has Authority Over Marriage

Only one power is given authority over marriage;

Not loneliness,
Not depression,
Not addiction,
Not anxiety,
Not self-injury,
Not money,
Not sex.[1. Image Credit: Fat Chance Michael Smith flickr CC 6OCT2011]

Only death has authority over marriage.[2. Matthew 5:32, 1 Corinthians 7:39-40, Romans 7:2-3.]

The cause of the ending of every marriage that is not overcome by death, is surrender. Don’t surrender.

### Brandon Blankenship, Alabama

Will We Celebrate Your Day?

Fireworks

As the 2016 Martin Luther King, Jr. week comes to a close, I am sharing this post from by friend Darrell “Coach D” Andres, CSP. This post appeared earlier this week on Christian Professionals Network and poses the question, will we celebrate your day?:

Dr. Myles Munroe’s Challenge

No question that Jesus my Lord and Savior has had the greatest impact on my life as a father, husband, minister and business owner. Besides my mother, the one person he placed on the planet that has impacted my life personally more than anyone is my mentor/Pastor – Dr. Myles Munroe out of Nassau in the Bahamas. He taught me more about living on purpose than anyone else. We lost Dr. Munroe a year or so ago, but his words still impact my life.

The Question Left Them In Stunned Silence

He once shared a story describing how during one of his many Martin Luther King Day speeches, he posed a question to his audience relating to Dr. King that left them in a stunned silence. He said and I quote, unquote, “Dr. Martin Luther King was a one of a kind person. His life and legacy was one of the greatest the world has ever seen. We are here to celebrate his life, legacy and impact today. The question I have for you however is as follows, “At some point in history are we going to celebrate your day? Will your life count in such a manner that the world, your city, state, nation or community is better off because you were here or will history not remember you? When I heard this, I made the commitment that my life would not end without making a considerable deposit in the world I live in. History will remember me. For me, it is using my voice and gift of motivation (Or biblically-exhortation) to change the world around me. My family, city, state nation and yes world (One day!)

Nothing matters except faith which worketh by love.[1. Brandon Blankenship paraphrase of Galatians 5:6, Image Credit: Fireworks Jorgen Kesseler CC flickr 31DEC2010]

The Bible tells us clearly in John 14:12:

Verily, verily, I say unto you, He that believeth on me, the works that I do shall he do also; and greater works than these shall he do; because I go unto my Father.[2. KJV.]

We (Men and Women) are told through scripture that we will do great works. We are not all called to be a global revolutionary like Dr. King, but the question I am posing is, “How will your life be remembered?” Through your business, work, ministry or other calling, what contributions are you going to make to transform society? I speak to youth, families and parents often (purposely) because one of my three missions is to transform the next generation via passion and purpose.

We Have Confused Wealth With Purpose

One belief that youth have is that you are only significant if you are wealthy. I do not blame them for thinking this way. We have confused wealth with purpose. Society, which includes many people of faith have wired them to think like this. My response to them when they make this statement is simple: “History does not remember rich people, it only remembers people who have positively impacted the world around them. The world and our nation does not create holidays for Millionaires and Billionaires, it creates them for people who improved the outcomes of others via the lives they live. If you just so happen to become wealthy in doing so that it another thing, but wealth as your only goal is empty.” I tell them, use your life in such a way that your life counts. Just like King, live your life on purpose and whatever gift you bring to the table will have meaning and significance to the world in which you live.

Will We Celebrate Your Day?

My dear friends, I say the same to you. Whatever affinity (Passion, Gift or Ability) God has given you, use it in such a way that betters the world around you. Luke 6:38 states: “Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over, shall men give into your bosom. For with the same measure that ye mete withal it shall be measured to you again.” Dr. King’s Dream blessed the world in such a way that streets, schools and communities are named after him. Because of his dream, the world is a better place, and the world is responding (Giving back) by honoring his life and legacy.

My friends, Dr. King left us a legacy, and now it is your time. What will you do to make the world a better place?

Darrell “Coach D” Andres, CSP
http://www.coachdspeaks.com/

PS-My brothers and sister who live in nations where this is a real challenge, we are praying for you![3. Special thanks to Coach D who allowed the reprint here.]

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Return on the Investment of Intention

… what a person plants, he or she will harvest. [1. Galatians 6:7, The Message, gender modified.]

I am encouraged with the farm-to-table movement in the United States. The side benefit is that as a new generation studies the source of the food on their table they become interested in things like seeds. Heirloom or hybrid, instead of thinking that fruit comes from the grocery story a whole generation knows that an apple grows on a tree and that there are many varieties of apple trees.

The simple knowledge that apple seeds, when planted in good ground, grow apple trees and good apple trees produce apples give this law meaning: what a person plants, he or she will harvest.

Intention is the Seed, Not the Act Itself

The seed that I plant is what I do and the tree and the apple that I harvest is what I get in return. What about those who give and give and get frustrated in the lack or quality of their harvest? Test your intention. Intention is the seed, not the act itself. The harvest is based on the the quality and quantify of your intention.

I Was, After All, Giving to the Homeless

Consider the story of when I would walk once a week or so from my office to a Bible study downtown. Often, I would pass homeless people on the walk. I kept a few dollars folded separate from everything else in my pocket so that I could easily give it as I felt lead to to so. As each person asked, I would pause and consult my conscience.[2. Each one must do just as he has purposed in his heart, not grudgingly or under compulsion, for God loves a cheerful giver.] As I felt led, I would give.

One day, I was compelled to start saying “in Jesus name” each time I gave. “O.K.,” I thought. “How hard could that be.” So, when the opportunity came, I opened my mouth to speak  —  and stuttered something even I didn’t understand. Giving “in Jesus name” turned out to be a lot harder than I expected.

The Nature of the Seed

When I give, if my intention is to look good to others or to be a good person, then that is what I harvest. So, when the harvest comes others see me as good in their estimation or worse, I see myself as good in my estimation. The intention of my planted seed is harvested.

Neither result is a good return on the investment. The Christian disciple seeks for “Christ to be magnified in our bodies whether by life or by death.”[3. Philippians 1:19-20.]

Checking my Intention

Perhaps that what David meant when he prayed, “search me, God, and know my heart; test me and know my anxious thoughts.”[4.Psalm 139:23.]

Maybe David knew that there were places where his intentions were not right. Maybe David suspected that there were places where his true intentions were hidden, even from himself.

Challenge

There are several tools Christian disciples can use to check our intention. Here is a simple one. After you resolve to do something, add the phrase, “in Jesus name.” If adding this phrase is difficult or makes you uncomfortable, it may be time to ask, “what is my true intention?”[5. Image Credit: Return on Investment, Simon Cunningham CC flickr 1JAN2014 LendingMemo.com, ©2015 Brandon L. Blankenship Attorney Lawyer]

### Brandon L. Blankenship

 

 

 

Truth or Dare and Money

If you don’t want anyone to find out, don’t do it.
-Chinese Proverb

Ever hid money from your spouse?[1. ©2015 Brandon L. Blankenship. Image Credit Girl Hiding Steven Depolo flickr CC by 2.0.] Ever bought something and just kept it to yourself? Got a credit card only you know about? Turns out you are not alone. According to Credit Karma, 17% of millennials confessed to hiding purchases from their spouse, while 11 % said they had a hidden bank account or credit card.[2. https://www.creditkarma.com/article/money-mistakes-young-couples-should-avoid-11615 (retrieved 20 November 2015)] Here are some thoughts to consider.

  1. Nothing is really hidden, at least not forever. No matter how smart you are or how diligent you are or how good you are at keeping secrets, the truth will come out.[3. Mark 4:22 For everything that is hidden will eventually be brought out into the open, and every secret will be brought to light. See also, Matthew 10:26, Luke 12:2 and Luke 8:17.]
  2. The issue will be trust not money. It is easy to trick yourself into believing that a small money matter won’t matter that much. When the hidden money matter is revealed, however, the real issue won’t be about money. It will be about trust. Marriage can survive without money. It cannot survive without trust.
  3. Little habits become big lifestyles. All those little things you have to do to keep a money matter secret become habits. The habits you develop to cover up a small money matter establish a lifestyle of deception that limits intimacy and authenticity. Generally, you will receive out of a marriage what you invest in it. Which would you rather receive?

Here is the good news: you get to choose. If you want to take the dare, you can – with uncertain, almost surely negative results. Why not choose the truth?